A client and friend of ours once gave me a little psychology test in which you find out, at your core, your central philosophy for living daily life. Â As the test begins the questions seem silly and unimportant and you answer immediately from your gut. Â But as it continues, you hear your responses become serious, even defensive, because you have hit something important. Â Mine came down to finding a way to connect with others – to see things from the perspective of people other than myself, to feel what they are feeling and understand what they need. Â Perhaps this is true for all introverts, as we are watchers and noticers. Â As I meet with clients, hear about wedding plans and session visions, as we capture moments together and I meet your families and share in your celebrations (and the occasional tough moments that life brings), I feel personally connected. Â And in this relationship we have, I think it is important for me to share a little of myself in return. Â This is why I post personal blogs – to invite you into my life as well.
Our Shawano Avenue Christmas this year was one with friends gathering over wine, snacks, and a rockinâ€™ hot cocoa bar. Â It was a mix of old and new friends all with exciting news (travel, engagements, and the upcoming arrival of a baby girl). Â It was quieter than a Christmas party would normally be because everyone wanted to hear what the other had to say – people meeting and connecting and reconnecting. Â It felt so special to have these friends close at hand and it got me thinking about value.
Christmas day with my family has always been fairly low-key; it is reserved for pajamas and chain-watching movies. Â This leaves plenty of time over the long weekend for games with family, trips to the coffee shop, and free moments to reflect after a busy fall. Â This Christmas, as the day was coming to a close, Itâ€™s a Wonderful Life was playing on the television and I spent the full length of the movie working in my idea book and drinking hot cocoa. Â It felt good. Â And I began thinking about how long it had been since I had worked creatively with my hands. Â There are many things that I donâ€™t give myself enough time for – reading, writing, daydreaming – and because they get pushed aside, I sometimes forget their value. Â It is easy to fill time (I am the worst at this) with Facebook cruising and Pinterest searches, and somehow it is Monday morning again, or 11:00 at night, or the end of a Netflix series (whichever speaks to you), and we wonder where the time went and what we have to show for it.
If Christmas is a time for reflection and New Years is a time for a fresh start, I am challenging myself and others to *make the time* for what we need – whatever that means for you.
I will be sharing a few of my own resolutions over on Instagram @kaseyandben – feel free to stop over and post a few of your own!